in a monogamous marriage both ppl must grasp that their first duty to each other is doing only what is good for e1 in the marriage. then they must grasp that their second goal is keeping e1 in the bond happy. the only person you can truly make happy is yourself but you must put the marriage first. then yourself. if you put the other person ahead of yourself all the time you will lose so much that you lose your ability to make the other happy. it is hard to keep a happy balance of first doing what is needed and second keeping both happy. now if you are into polygamy then you have many to make happy and do what is needed for them. e1 has to work even harder to avoid hurting feelings and do whats right. some chores will be split up. if you think leaving the marriage is an option then you have set the marriage up for failure. if you do like polygamy you should be open to both partners getting married to more than one. this means that who ever is in your marriage has to be approved by all others in the marriage. if s1 seems hinky to you but one or more of the ppl wants to marry them they should end any bond with that person. now if you first thot is that this person is wrong for the marriage stand up for that feeling even after you have been shown that this person is good for the marriage. also if at first you think s1 is good for thee marriage but later think otherwise stick with that second thot forever. the first rule of any polygamist marriage is keeping the needs of e1 who is already in the marriage foremost. the second rule is keeping the feelings of e1 in marriage second most vital thing you work towards keeping happy. if you these two rules are overridden by other things the marriage will fail.

June 02, 2012 at 02:50AM